Who doesn’t love their kid right! We all do. We always try to keep them healthy and happy. We love them, we try to provide them with the best of what we can, we listen to them, we play with them and so on. In a nutshell, our kid is our center of attention. They are the beings around whom our lives revolve. And this is same with all parents in this World.
That being said, while we try our best to provide them with everything they need, there are things we may do that have the potential to hurt or harm them. Things that we even didn’t know would affect these sensitive souls.
In this short post, i would like to point out 5 of such things.
- Using too many DON’Ts: One such thing is using the phrase ”Don’t do ” too many times. Even if you put a PLEASE before the word. Too many DON’Ts are going to affect and eventually hurt the kid. So, better be patient.
- ALWAYS and NEVER are not for kids: You should avoid using words like “always” and “never” when speaking to your child, because it can make them think they’re hopeless. “[Adults] love to rattle off quips like you’ll never, you won’t, you can’t, you always,” says Daniel Patterson, author of The Assertive Parent and founder of the Patterson Perspective.” [But] statements like these place children in a box of negativity or permanence—suggesting that they are always a certain way, and incapable or unexpected to improve.” Patterson adds that using the word “never” gives your child permission to never change, which isn’t what you want.
- Going through some hard financial times? Do your best not to let the kids in on it. Dr. Brad Klontz, a clinical psychologist and author of the book Mind Over Money, told CBS News, “Don’t give them TMFI: too much financial information. We can’t involve them in things they’re powerless to do anything about. Laying that load on a child makes her anxious.”
- One sin almost all parents commit: You don’t want to discourage your kid from trying hard, but reciting this popular line can cause them to feel a lot of pressure. “It sends the message that if you make mistakes, you didn’t train hard enough. I’ve seen kids beat themselves up, wondering, ‘What’s wrong with me? I practice, practice, practice, and I’m still not the best,'” says Joel Fish, Ph.D., author of 101 Ways to Be A Terrific Sports Parent.
- You are okay not the kid: When a child is upset, don’t be too quick to immediate pointing out that everything is “okay”—first, make sure they know their feelings are valid. “Your kid is crying because he’s not okay. Your job is to help him understand and deal with his emotions, not discount them,” says Jenn Berman, Psy.D., author of The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids. “Try giving him a hug and acknowledging what he’s feeling by saying something like, ‘That was a scary fall.’ Then ask whether he’d like a bandage or a kiss (or both),” Berman suggests.
Hope these (often missed) things will enable you to avoid doing any damage to your kid. Share your thoughts in the comments below to add more. Wish you and your kids the best in life! If you find this post useful as a parent, share with others.